My hubby and I love this couple to death but have recently found out that one has been unfaithful to their vows on numerous occasions with (his/her) ex. The significant other (S/0) has no idea that this has been happening. The (S/O) was told (he/she) has hung out with the ex but not to worry b/c they're just friends but reminded the (S/O) that (he/she) will always have feelings for and still loves the ex. So to cover up the truth, (He/she) told the (S/O) they just got married too quickly and (he/she) is confused. So the (S/O) has been convinced that (he/she) just wants some space away from each other, nothing else. The thing is,(he/she) has already chosen the ex, but found out (he/she) can't have the ex anymore. So now as a last resort kind of thing (he/she) is wanting to fix things with their (S/O) and pretend like no cheating ever happened. They're both two of our closest friends and we don't want to be to blame if their marriage fails after the truth is revealed. Because that's what would happen,for sure. So the question is, should we focus on the one who's been cheated on and risk/lose the other person's friendship? Or, do we not say anything to the one who's been cheated on and betray their trust but keep the cheater as a friend and act as if nothing has happened?? I am so confused as what the right thing would be because they both mean so much to us. Who do we stay a true friend to?? It's hard because I know either way one is going to get hurt...
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
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FROM MY KNOWLEDGE: stay out of it. don't choose sides, just be friedns like you are and try to remember that it is their relationship and your their friends.
I know this wouldn't happen to me but if someone knew I would want them to tell me. Instead of me finding out on my own and then finding out my so called friends already knew and said nothing...I couldn't trust them anymore ya know?
K, similar situation going on over here except it's not "I have feelings for my ex" it's "I'm gonna bang someone eles wife"....the bangees husband found out (keep in mind the guys are AF)and EVERYONE on base knew within a matter of seconds. (You get that you're at MH) BUT the Guy bangee's wife was out of town for a month. She came back, and NO ONE told her...she found out, an all hell broke loose.
So, advice, I have none...but, I do know that it SUCKS to be the person finding out a month down the road what everyone else already knew!
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